A blog that rose from the original Interrace Haven website from the mid-1990s to 2002, as narrated by that site's webmaster: a 40-something white computer geek married to a gorgeous 30-something black quasi-computer geek. They have have three biracial children (2 sons and 1 daughter) and have been happily married and parents since 1995.
Friday, November 26, 2004
I had an amazing Thanksgiving, but for the most unexpected of reasons. The holiday weekend really started Wednesday night. Angel, the boys and I went to see The Incredibles -- which is an awesome movie I would highly recommend to anyone! We went to the 9:30 pm showing and got out just before midnight, so that was a COOL way to end Wednesday...
Yesterday, we met with both sides of our family, which was nice. We enjoyed each other's company, had food together and got caught up on each other's lives. I'm really glad we were able to do that.
We ended up over at one of our First Light bandmate's house on Thansgiving evening. Most of the rest of First Light members were there, too, and we ended up singing a few First Light songs for some relatives of one of our bandmates...which, again, was fun.
Then there was a phone call that changed the whole evening.
One of our sisters in Christ, whom we all knew and loved, had passed away this Thanksgiving. She was not old. She had not died in a car accident. She and her husband (they're an interracial married couple) had recently gotten back from missionary work in Belize, Central America, where our church has a sister church. Upon their return, the husband had gotten sick but eventually recovered but the illness had persisted in his wife. They were visiting some friends from church when she decided to get some rest because she wasn't feeling well. She went to sleep and never woke up.
When we got the news, we were shocked but we were also immediately happy for her because, as one brother put it, "the scriptures are fulfilled" that she fell asleep in Christ. Hers was by no means a terrible death; our sadness was for her husband and ourselves, who will miss her on the Earth. Our whole church will be giving support and love to her husband to help him in this time of need.
But after learning this news and speaking about it for a few minutes, First Light began to sing songs to the Lord, in honor of our sister in Christ and the glorious encouragement she gave to us all by completing a life that was free from willful sin. Only the leader of the band had his guitar, so most of us just sang -- but we sang with all we had! There were tears and some "cracked notes" from emotion but the emotions were pure and they were beautiful. I will admit I cried as we sang "I Exalt Thee." Everyone was choked up, some cried freely, but they were tears of joy, not sadness...and the Lord deserved (and deserves) all the honor and praise and so much more. We sang hymns and original First Light numbers -- but in a way we had never sang them before. Obviously, this was not in front of an audience -- just ourselves, those in the house and, most importantly, the Lord.
It definitely goes down as my most memorable Thanksgiving...and I'm thankful for it.
Best Wishes,
Allen
Wednesday, November 24, 2004
- Salvation (I give thanks to God for His Son, Jesus Christ, who changed my life, forgave my past and came to live in my heart. His Holy Spirit has helped me live free from willful sin for nearly nine years)
- My wife and children
- My health and strength (such as it is, it could always be worse)
- My sister, mother and in-laws
- My church family
- Having a job
- The duplex we rent
- Our vehicle (paid for!)
- The freedoms we're afforded in the U.S.A.
- The sacrifices made to achieve the freedoms we're afforded in the U.S.A.
- Being alive
- All the friends I've made on the internet, including you!
Most likely, I will not be blogging tomorrow, as I will be with family all day enjoying the Thanksgiving holiday. So, I wanted to go ahead and share what I'm thankful for today. I hope you have a wonderful holiday and stay safe!
Best Wishes,
Allen
Tuesday, November 23, 2004
Special thanks to Weatherbug for the radar image!
Here comes round three of storms before the cold front blows through later tonight. There is a severe thunderstorm watch in effect for Central Texas, I'm sure that will become a warning when the storms arrive.
The nice thing is, if the lights go out, we use candles in the house. It looks rather nice at night. And if tornadoes break out, well, we can pray.
Best Wishes,
Allen
Well, we appear to have survived. Now Houston and East Texas are dealing with the storm system. I'm praying for them, they seem to be having more tornadic weather than we did in Central Texas. We only had a couple of funnel clouds and maybe one or two touchdowns with no significant damage. And although lightning did strike a house in South Austin, still there was, no significant damage, thankfully.
There is a lot to be thankful about this week!
Best Wishes,
Allen
Special thanks to Weatherbug for the radar image!
Well, we got rain! We also have a tornado watch till 3:00 p.m. and already had one tornado warning this morning (whether one touched down, I don't know). Severe thunderstorm watches and warnings, flood watches and warnings.
As the saying goes: be very careful what you ask for: you may get it!
Thanksgiving is in two days. Lord willing we survive the next 48 hours, we'll be having Thanksgiving with both sides of our family...and I am thankful they all live in the Central Texas area!
More later...
Best Wishes,
Allen
Monday, November 22, 2004
Special thanks to Weatherbug for the radar image!
Well, it's been another wet weekend. It got particularly stormy last night, with constant thunder and lightning and a delightful 2 inches of rain overnight. Once I got back to sleep (hard to get to sleep with the frequent, white bright lightning flashes but exhaustion did it's part and I managed), the rain made for good, deep sleep. I was surprised when I checked the local news this morning and learned that a major road in downtown Austin (Cesar Chavez @ Lamar, for you Austinites) near Town Lake was flooded and even part of nearby 5th Street coming off of one of the highways (Mopac).
The rain is supposed to move out tomorrow evening, we'll just have to tread water and avoid tornadoes until then. Thanksgiving weekend is supposed to be clear and have lows in the 30s!
We had an interesting weekend, despite the rain. First Light participated in a cultural dinner for our church on Saturday. Our church (which is nondenominational) celebrates all nations and one way to celebrate is to have a dinner with food prepared in the way other nations do. The deacons and their wives prepared dishes such as African stewed chicken; German saurkraut with authentic German sausage; lamb with squash and unleavened bread in the style of Israel; beef and broccoli with fried rice and eggroll - plus a choice of soy or sweet and sour sauces; enchiladas, lasagne and American meatloaf and mashed potatoes.
I sampled quite a few dishes (didn't have room for the meatloaf or potatoes or any of the cheese-heavy dishes), including the Israeli, African and Asian dishes. I tried to get a little of everything. Both of my sons tried all "foreign" dishes (I was very proud of them). Angel had eaten before we left home, so she didn't sample as much. Anyway, it was a wonderful event and our pastor had some encouraging words for all of us.
I could tell you the story about how our van broke down right before the event, but the Lord blessed us to make it there anyway -- and our van is already fixed (and it only took one part and 99 cents!) So I really have nothing to complain about and plenty to be happy about.
Bring on the rain!!!
Best Wishes,
Allen
Thursday, November 18, 2004
| ...now I'm part of an OSCAR-nominated film! I IM'd this tidbit to my wife and then called Gia and let her know. We all agree that, no matter what we think of this film that none of us has seen yet, it probably has a good shot at winning. The subject is timely, the film is distinct in style, plus critics and fans alike have really enjoyed it.
More as this develops... Best Wishes, Allen |
Wednesday, November 17, 2004
It's been raining in Austin since Saturday. No, really -- since Saturday! Traffic accidents have abounded and there's been at least a couple of deaths as a result of people trying to go through low water crossings. I had to drive (extremely slowly) through one just to take my son to school this morning -- and it was on the only street going to the school! Okay, so maybe they should have considered delaying opening the charter school this morning or using a "bad weather" day. I mean, when they're talking about your city's weather on national talk radio shows, you have some serious weather going on! Two tornadoes and several deaths in San Antonio, Texas.
Believe it or not, I'm not complaining. I'm amazed.
If this is what happens in five days of mild to moderate rain, I can't imagine 40 days of this when it had never rained before, in Noah's day. The rain must have been severely intense, too -- probably hurricane force. It would have been unimaginably terrible. So, this, by comparison, is not that bad.
The sun should come back out tomorrow. I can tread water till then...
If you're in Texas, stay dry!
Best Wishes,
Allen
Tuesday, November 16, 2004

I keep getting people telling me that they saw me in the deleted scenes of Supersize Me...does this mean I'm semi-famous now? It's kind of funny, too, because (my ISAA Rapport co-host) Gia and I weren't sure where the film was gonna go after Morgan finished filming our sequence. We weren't even sure if the film would get to the theaters, much less get best director award from Sundance and rave reviews from film critics.
What's funnier, though, is that although I have seen Gia's and my scene in the deleted scenes, I have not been able to force myself to watch the film itself.
Is that odd?
Best Wishes,
Allen
Saturday, November 13, 2004
I have mixed feelings on this topic. I've run across at least two blogs that are just someone's book, chapter by chapter, for the world's perusing. I just saw one that was in good format, nice and compelling web design, except I read about six lines and got bored, so I went on to another blog. BUT -- if it were a compelling read that grabs you from the first word, it would be great!
Of course, if it were that good, writers wouldn't be rejected enough times to force them to blog their books.
Then again, you've got people who start as bloggers and they land book deals because they prove through their blogging that they can write!
So, um, is this the embodiment of a paradox or what?
Best Wishes,
Allen
You'll have to excuse me regarding the recent entries on non-dairy cooking but there is some relevance to this for the readers of IR Haven.
According to the National Dairy Council:
The prevalence of lactose maldigestion (or lactase non-persistence) varies among different ethnic and racial groups in the U.S.:
- 90% of Asian Americans
- 80% of African Americans
- 62-100% of Native Americans
- 53% of Mexican Americans
- 15% of Caucasians.
In all, about 25% of the U.S. population – or an estimated 30 to 50 million American adults – have low lactase levels or are lactose maldigesters. A diagnosis of lactose maldigestion doesn't necessarily mean that the individual will experience intolerance symptoms.
Anyway, I have found that while there are some places on the web with some, shall we say, interesting non-dairy recipes, not too many of them were down-to-Earth recipes that meat-eaters like me can enjoy. And I say that with all due respect to vegetarians and vegans.
What I've found is that any recipe that calls for milk and butter can be safely and effectively replaced with Silk soymilk (vanilla flavor is the most like "real" milk) and non-dairy margarine. It's really that simple!
This morning, I made some delicious pancakes using Silk. My non-dairy margarine had, shall we say, expired so (after I tossed the margarine) I fried the pancakes in a small amount of Wesson blended cooking oil. It passed the wife and oldest son test! Big, light, fluffy and (most important) yummy!
Best Wishes,
Allen
Wednesday, November 10, 2004
Okay, so if you didn't know already, I'm lactose-intolerant. Now, I like to cook and bake and I love to eat -- so I wasn't about to let a little thing like being unable to digest anything dairy (milk, cheese, anything with lactic acid) completely deter my food choices. I've been discovering some interesting alternatives, mostly in soy choices, but not always (although I'm a huge fan of Veggie Slices (soy cheese - so why did my local grocer remove them from their selection??? Argh!)
On Sunday, I decided to test a theory that it is possible to make stroganoff without dairy ingredients. A challenge, to be sure -- but I did it and it turned out great (it passed the "kid-approved" test)! Imagination, improvisation and prayer led to the following version of Beef Stroganoff...
Ingredients:
- 1 pound of chuck beef for stew
Note: You can easily substitute with chicken - just cut up three boneless,
skinless chicken breasts into bite-sized pieces. - 1 package/can of beef stock (preferrably organic)
- 1 package/can of mushroom stock (preferrably organic)
- wide egg noodles (12 oz. or larger)
- Flour
- 1 large clove garlic
- 1/2 sweet (or yellow) onion
- Black Pepper
- Salt
- Steak seasonings
- Nature's Seasoning
- Blended cooking oil (I used Wesson)
- Olive Oil
- Paprika
Instructions:
- Rinse beef in water, then season beef liberally with pepper and steak seasonings
- Coat beef lightly in flour
- Sautee garlic and onion in a skillet in about 2 tablespoons of virgin olive oil until slightly carmelized
- Cook beef in onions and garlic till beef is thoroughly tender
- Remove skillet from heat and cover
- In a large cooking pot, heat about a quarter-cup of flour, mix in a couple of teaspoons of cooking oil in medium heat (DO NOT BURN THE FLOUR)
- Add 2 cups of beef broth and stir into flour mixture
- Add 1 cup of mushroom broth
- Lower heat and stir to thicken gravy
- Add 2 tablespoons black pepper, 1 tablespoon Nature's Seasoning, 2 tablespoons paprika and 1 teaspoon salt
- Add beef and mushroom broth to taste
- Stir in beef, onion and garlic mixture
- Remove from heat
- Boil water in a large pot (add 2 teaspoons olive oil before boiling)
- Add wide egg noodles
- Boil till egg noodles are soft and tender
- Remove from heat, drain water through a strainer
- Return noodles to large pot
- Serve noodles, topped with meat gravy
This recipe easily serves a family of four for a couple of days. Enjoy!
Let me know if you have any of your own non-dairy recipes.
Best Wishes,
Allen
Saturday, November 06, 2004
Today, First Light (the Christian band my wife and I are in) performed at a toy drive for Operation Christmas Gift in Smithville, Texas this morning/afternoon. We, along with Forerunner (a Christian rock band from our church), were entertainment to encourage people to drop off toys, health and hygeine items, along with monetary donations for this effort. The event was from 9 am till 1 pm. We performed in two 45-minute sets, alternating with Forerunner.
It was a lot of fun! We haven't had an opportunity to play so many songs back-to-back in quite a while -- and all for a great cause!
Best Wishes,
Allen
Friday, November 05, 2004
The buzz of the alarm went off at 5:25 a.m. as it does every weekday morning. A few seconds later, I lumbered out of bed and into the restroom. A moment later, I hear my wife's voice, slightly muffled by the closed door.
"Honey, I'm going out to the driveway for a minute."
(I grunt in acknowledgment, nevermind that it made no sense to my semi-conscious brain.)
A few moments later, she comes back inside.
"C'mon, Allen, you gotta come out and see this. You can see Venus, Jupiter and Mars in the sky!"
Still semi-conscious, I explained that I really didn't want to go outside yet.
"C'mon, Allen, it's a once-in-a-lifetime event!"
I sighed. Her tone told me that she would be very disappointed if I did not go see what she wanted me to see. I do not like disappointing my wife, so I re-emerged into the bedroom, put on the clothes she'd laid out for me and went outside with her.
It was fairly striking, I'll say that. Venus was shining like a very bright star, Jupiter was to its right and Mars was faintly visible to the left of Venus.
I look at it for all of about two minutes before heading back inside. It was impressive but I'm a person of habit and duty. I knew I didn't have the luxury of enjoying this stellar phenomenon long enough to throw off the morning schedule of getting my sons up and driving them to school on time.
So, a little bit later, my wife wakes up the boys for me and proceeds to take them outside to view the planets.
Actually, I'm glad they got to see them, just as they'd seen the lunar eclipse. It's all part of the wonders of God's universe and I do think it's important for them to appreciate it. I'm told it was much fainter in the sky because the sun had begun to rise -- but they still got to see it, which is the important thing.
And I still got the kids breakfast and to school on time.
Best Wishes,
Allen
I wanted to share something my church is doing that can positively impact children and families of every ethnicity and nationality in the U.S. and around the world. Please read this and decide for yourself if you would like to help. This will not benefit me personally, my family or this website. This is for children everywhere.
Operation Christmas Gift is a unique project of Christian love and evangelism sponsored by the New Covenant Church, delivers gifts to suffering children while also telling them about God greatest gift – His Son, Jesus Christ. You and your family, church, or organization can take part in this exciting worthwhile project simply by following the link below:
Operation Christmas Gift
Click here for a downloadable Adobe Acrobat brochure
(PDF format - English)
Click here for a downloadable Adobe Acrobat brochure
(PDF format - Spanish)
Best Wishes,
Allen
Thursday, November 04, 2004
Updates to IR Haven: I've removed the link category of "Political Blogs." I also removed several of the political links. I kept several links that are just good blogs that happen to have a political element. I renamed the former "Political Blogs" section "Blogs of Interest." The election's over, the political fervor is dying down, it's time to focus on other things now.
Gosh, that feels good to write!
Best Wishes,
Allen
Wednesday, November 03, 2004
Wow, over in one day -- what a relief!
Yesterday, I added a 10 GB partition to my home PC's hard drive so I could try the new Mandrake Linux Community Edition 10.1! Install was quick and relatively painless (about 10 minutes), easily configured, nice and easy firewall feature. I downloaded and installed Firefox for Linux (I love Firefox!) and downloaded the Realplayer 10 Gold plugin for Mozilla (which works better in Mozilla than Firefox -- but hey, so long as it works). Mandrake recognized all of my hardware except my old scanner (no biggie) and had no problem connecting to the internet through my broadband cable modem.
Are there any other Mandrake users out there? I'd love to hear from you, in comments or in e-mail!
Anyway, I don't want this to be a long post. I'm happy the election is already resolved and I gained more respect for Senator Kerry from his classy and gracious concession speech than throughout the whole, arduous campaign. I'll admit it, I was impressed. Now, on with life...
Best Wishes,
Allen
Monday, November 01, 2004
I don't know about you but I have reached full saturation with the political discussions, ramifications, polls and such. I am truly ready for the election, counting (hopefully not recounting) and everything to be over and done with.
We'll see what happens tomorrow then. Have a great day today!
Best Wishes,
Allen
Friday, October 29, 2004
Yep, I'm an early voter. I went and placed my vote today for President Bush and Vice-President Cheney to be re-elected. I have rarely felt such an urgency to vote and I felt extremely satisfied walking away from the polls.
As an American, I love my country and feel blessed for the freedoms my family, friends and I enjoy. I also know that those freedoms were purchased with the sacrifice of men and women's lives and those freedoms are being defended this very day by the men and women in the U.S. military and the U.S. intelligence community, along with the allies of the U.S. in the international war on terror...and leading that effort all is the U.S. Commander-In-Chief.
So, come what may, I know I participated in the election process. Now, like everyone else, I'll wait and see what the rest of the country decides, who they vote for or if they even decide to vote.
Best Wishes,
Allen
Thursday, October 28, 2004
So yesterday was an interesting day. Our van was finally repaired and we went to pick it up. About the time we got the van from our friend who'd worked on it, the lunar eclipse was starting. As the boys and I headed home in the van (and Angel followed in the rental car), the boys got really excited about the eclipse and asked some good questions.
Once we got home and transferred some papers and stuff from the rental car back to the van, I decided to let the boys stay outside with me and watch the eclipse. Adam got out his toy binoculars and watched, occasionally letting his brother look through them. A few minutes later, Angel came outside and we all watched as the eclipse reached its fullness. Then as we saw that the eclipse was starting to wane, we went back inside. I'd hoped to use the digital camera to snap some shots of the eclipse but AA batteries were nowhere to be found (drat.) So, this cool picture I found on the Drudge Report will just have to do...
Youthfest 2004 was a great success last Saturday! We had an terrific turnout, sound was excellent, transitions between speakers and musical groups was near-flawless, the guest groups were diverse and talented, the Gospel was preached in three well-timed mini-sermons and best of all, one soul came to Christ! That made the whole event worthwhile...
In other news, I've been continuing to tweak IR Haven's look and feel over the last week. Thanks to Blog Explosion, we've been getting dozens of extra visitors per day, so I've been trying to make the site easier to load and nicer to look at. If you want to leave feedback on IR Haven, you can e-mail me or just leave a comment on this blog entry. Have a great day!
Best Wishes,
Allen
Tuesday, October 26, 2004
Some people say they don't have faith.
Some say they don't have enough faith to believe in God.
Some say they don't have enough faith to believe that Jesus Christ is Savior of the world.
I would counter that by saying that everyone has faith. Maybe not faith in God or Jesus, but everyone exhibits faith every single day.
It takes faith to believe you can open your eyes.
It takes faith to get out of bed and face each day.
It takes faith to operate a toaster or microwave oven.
It takes faith to ride a bicycle or drive a car.
It takes faith to repair something.
It takes faith to go on a job interview.
It takes faith to travel by airplane.
It takes faith to believe your computer will boot up correctly.
It takes faith to believe that someone will respond when you instant message them.
It takes faith to believe that people will read your blog.
It takes a LOT of faith to become a physician.
It takes a LOT of faith to commit to raising a child.
It takes a LOT of faith to make a marriage work.
It takes a LOT of faith to advance a career.
It takes a LOT of faith to be involved in politics or activism.
It takes a LOT of faith to recover from failure and get on with your life.
It took God to put that faith in all of us.
It took God to give us a desire to better ourselves, to seek purpose in life.
It took Jesus Christ's sacrifice on the cross and God resurrecting Him from the dead and send the Holy Ghost that can fill that space, that emptiness, and give us direction and encouragement during our lifetimes and hope for what's to come after we die.
Does it take faith to believe in God? Yes.
Does it take faith to believe Jesus is the Son of God? Yes.
Does it take faith to believe in an afterlife? Absolutely.
Is it hard to take that step of faith to believe in these things? Definitely.
Can you do it? Yes.
Why?
Because God gives each and every one of us that faith when we're born.
2 Peter 3:9 (King James Version)
The Lord is not slack concerning his promise, as some men count slackness; but is longsuffering to us-ward, not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance.
John 3:16 (KJV)
For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
Thanks for reading this. It's not copied from anywhere, I wrote it (except for the scriptures, of course)...and yes, it took faith. Have a great day!
Best Wishes,
Allen
Thursday, October 21, 2004

...but my wife and I are really enjoying our 2002 red Ford Focus rental from Enterprise Rent-A-Car. Sure, it's got semi-miserable gas mileage, odd inside manual locks, weird cupholders and its CD player doesn't work but other than that, it's a dream! I love the great suspension, smooth gear-shifting, pep of the engine (must be a V6 -- which would account for the inferior gas mileage), the close to the ground feel and the fact that this vehicle has working air conditioning (the van, alas, needs a new compressor -- but that'll have to wait, it's Fall already).
Anyway, we've got it till next Wednesday. More soon!
Best Wishes,
Allen
Wednesday, October 20, 2004
My wife showed me this incredible animation over the weekend and I just have to share it with you! It's an MPEG file, so you'll need either RealPlayer (Free Version), Windows Media Player or some other MPG file viewer (I found out by accident today that the Firefox browser does a pretty good job all on it's own!). It's worth the 3 MB download to see an alien sing (and act) 42 seconds of Gloria Gaynor's "I Will Survive!" (complete with disco ball!)
Alien Song
Best Wishes,
Allen
So my family (my sister in particular, as well as her husband and my mom -- yes, I have a sibling) agrees to help us with our vehicle dilemma and I make arrangements for good deals on a used transmission for the van and a rental car in the meantime. All looks good. I take a shuttle out to the airport to pick up the rental car and run into CREDIT CARD INSANITY at Advantage rental cars.
I try to avoid using credit cards, I prefer our debit card. Pay with what you have, I always say... Anyway, so Advantage takes debit cards but want to charge $300 to them -- actually withdraw money -- as the deposit. This would be fine if I had something like $500 in my account at any given time but alas, I get paid weekly. They say, no problem, just use a credit card, they don't charge anything to it. That would be fine if I had an active credit card but I don't. They also don't take numbers for other credit cards from over the phone (I can sort of see the reasoning for that). So, I say, hey, no problem, I'LL JUST PAY IN CASH. "We can't take cash as payment." Huh?? "Corporate policy. I could lose my job if I take cash as payment."
Mumble, grumble...fast-forward to this morning. I make one call to Enterprise Rent-A-Car and they:
- Set up an appointment for me and confirm they take cash as payment.
- Send a car to pick me up within minutes.
- Tell me exactly what they need (proof of insurance, driver's license, etc.)
- Explain their terms.
- Give me a better price than Advantage.
- Take my cash.
- Give me a free upgrade from economy to mid-size vehicle (a 2002 Ford Focus)
- I'm done in less than 20 minutes and drive the vehicle off the lot.
- Make me very happy.
So, we have a rental vehicle for a week (why is it cheaper to rent longer?) and our own vehicle should be fixed by Friday. I'm liking Enterprise but I will never use Advantage again. So, yesterday was stressful but today, I am doing alright! Many a gracious and sincere thank you to my loving relatives for their support.
Tonight is final practice for Youthfest 2004 at the church. Soundcheck at the Delco Center is Friday and the event is Saturday! First Light will be one of the first performing bands, so if you're coming, arrive a little early!
Best Wishes,
Allen
Monday, October 18, 2004
I've been making friends in the blogosphere and registering/submitting IR Haven to more blog-related sites. It's weird, when you decide to do that, you inevitably find more sites to trade links with and run the risk of obsessive linking -- agh!
In other news, the transmission in our van (our only vehicle) went *ka-put* last Thursday, so we're looking at getting a used transmission and having it transplanted. I tend to be car-ignorant and computer savvy; I suppose in the end, it all balances out. Anyway, that's why it's good to have family and friends who care -- who also happen to specialize in the things you don't know. Lord-willing, we'll be mobile again in a matter of days. Fortunately, I have a job that's so close I can literally walk to it and it only takes 15 minutes (in traffic!). Life goes on, I'll keep you updated.
More updates soon...
Best Wishes,
Allen
Friday, October 15, 2004
Yep, I went ahead and signed on for the new "Live Message Alerts" for blogs. You have to have a .NET passport from MSN (they're free) like for a MSN Messenger or Hotmail account and then you can receive instant updates about IR Haven postings, either on your MSN Messenger on your computer, PDA, cell phone or e-mail! I personally thought that was great idea. I hope you do, too.
If you don't have a .NET passport, just click on the "Live Message Alerts!" button on the upper right of this page (under the clock) and it will take you through the free sign-up process. If you already do have a .NET passport, just follow the rest of the steps to start getting your updates.
I'm posting a lot more frequently these days and I really want everyone to be up-to-speed, so go ahead and get your Live Message Alerts today!
Best Wishes,
Allen
Yep, I finally decided to get rid of "It's not just a website, it's a Community!" for, well, obvious reasons: converting from a website with a forum to a blog with comments changes the nature of things. It allows me to say a whole lot more and share personal pictures and events in my life but there's just not as much conversation as there used to be in the old forum days. A forum was just too crazy to run, though -- too many people with axes to grind, usually on my head...and I just didn't need the headache. So when the free service I was using suddenly became not-so-free, about two years ago, it was just a matter of practicality to ditch the forum. When I started the blog last year, the slogan still was cool, so I kept it around.
But if I've noticed anything about the internet, it's that you have to reinvent yourself now and then to keep people interested in what you're doing. Not that I'm making Madonna-like claims (Madonna, like it or not, is the "Queen of Reinvention"), but I love this site and I want it to be all it can be for you. And now that we've hooked up with Blog Explosion, there's a potential for a whole new audience for IR Haven.
So, I thought to myself, "What really defines what IR Haven is all about now -- and then what's a cool hook I can add at the end?" The end result: "Interracial Marriage. Biracial Kids. Blogging the Paradise!"
Let me know what you think! Leave me a comment below.
Best Wishes,
Allen
Tuesday, October 12, 2004

The DVD of Supersize Me came out last week, featuring an additional hour of material -- including a segment with me and my ISAA Rapport co-host Gia Melissa Marciano! That's right, our segment is located in the "Deleted Scenes" section in the "Overeaters Anonymous" segment. Not that the director, Morgan Spurlock, implied anything about us, rather he chose to insert our segment after he visited and filmed an Overeaters Anonymous meeting. We're the final 34 seconds of that segment.
You can hear what Gia and I had to say about the experience in The ISAA Rapport by by clicking here! (You'll need Windows Media Player to hear it - the topic comes up in the second half of the show.)
So, this week, Gia was contacted by someone who got the DVD and saw the segment, so Gia contacts me and says "You think we're in this thing now???" Angel bought a copy and confirmed everything.
Wow! We're famous -- sorta!

Best Wishes,
Allen
Monday, October 11, 2004
Josey and Adam in front of the refreshments
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Goodies at the birthday party included "caterpillar" cupcakes (alternating vanilla and chocolate with different icing on each "caterpillar"), chips and dip, soda, plus little smoked sausages in BBQ sauce (not pictured) | |
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Adam takes a swing at the frog pinata! | |
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Josey's turn! | |
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Adam and Josey open gifts, as friends look on! (Yes, those are gold- and silver-colored crowns on their heads) | |
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As you can see, the boys had a great birthday party! |
Saturday, October 09, 2004
The boys had a GREAT birthday party with some of their friends from church last night! There were about about seven kids and two sets of parents. Something pretty unique about it, too, (though not planned) was that four out of those seven kids were biracial like Adam and Josey! So here we had a boys birthday party where the majority of kids are biracial -- that was neat. Of course, it doesn't matter to the kids and we don't really think about it either, but in retrospect, it's kind of amazing. I guess it's amazing to me because it doesn't happen too often that the majority of any child's birthday party is composed of multiracial children -- to unintentionally and randomly end up with a racial "neutral ground" where kids can just be free to be kids.
And by the way, my wife Angel gets total credit for the planning of the boys' birthday party together and she was an excellent hostess fo the evening, too. The party was part kids' games (like the three-legged spoon race and "Simon Says"-like games), part refreshments, part beat the frog piñata and finally, the opening of the presents. For the few who remained when that was over, they had a choice of Super-Nintendo with Josey or Charlotte's Web 2 on DVD in the computer room.
The boys said it was their "best birthday ever!"
I got pictures with the digital camera. I'll post `em as soon as I can.
We'll be having a separate birthday party with family this afternoon at home and then it will migrate to "Austin Park and Pizza." Should be fun! I'll update later.
I so love it when the boys can enjoy themselves so much. I know those feelings are usually associated with the Mommy -- but this Papa has those feelings, too.
Best Wishes,
Allen
Friday, October 08, 2004
I haven't gotten a chance to post my son, Adam Qyrive (pronounced "keer-ee-vay") Steadham's pics, as it's his 9th birthday today. We're having the first of two birthday parties for the boys tonight (the other is tomorrow). I still plan to post some cool pics of Adam but I may add some digital pics from one or both parties, too.
Best Wishes,
Allen
Thursday, October 07, 2004
I've added a clock to IR Haven from Clocklink and hooked up with Blog Explosion. Blog Explosion is a free way to build traffic for blog-related sites.

I've been trying to blog every day this week, which has been a little difficult because I've been sick with whatever blew in last weekend. But as much as possible I will keep blogging.
Also, tomorrow is my oldest son, Adam's, birthday! So, expect a couple of pics of him, just like I did for Josey yesterday!
Best Wishes,
Allen
Wednesday, October 06, 2004
Jonavinne ("Josey") Alexander Steadham is 6 years old today. I am very proud of him!
Here's a couple of pictures of him. Give him a "Happy Birthday" in the comments section if you like...
Josey with big bro, Adam, being cool! |
Josey fitting in at the University of Texas at Austin in 2002 (I was part of a diversity panel and my wife and son attended) |
Tuesday, October 05, 2004
Monday, October 04, 2004
Well, I finally got to play the game on Friday night and Saturday. It truly does build upon the Myst legend of great graphics, animations and strong story -- but with some twists. Myst: Revelation picks up over 10 years after "Myst: Exile" left off but takes place before "Uru: Ages Beyond Myst." It also answers the question of what happened to the main character (Atrus)' sons after the first "Myst" while properly acquainting the game player to Atrus' youngest child, his daughter Yeesha (who was introduced as an eccentric adult in "Uru").
The game is back to 1st person perspective ("Uru" introduced the creation of 3rd person customizable avatars) with some really nice additions, like improved "zip mode," a camera to take snapshots and a viewer to see those snapshots later. Something else that's very new and helpful is a "help/hints" section in the options menu, so that when (not if) you get stuck, you have varying degrees of assistance on solving the puzzles as well as a map of the age you're on. There is one catch, though: if you use help, it mildly alters the ending of the game. Oh, well, I needed some help in a few areas already!
The game has vastly improved 360-degree rotation views and wonderful animated interactions, whether wind or fog or insects or other animals and people. So far, I've only found one extremely minor bug on the "Spire" age and even it did not affect the game play.
According to the game's makers, Ubisoft, there is over one hour of animated footage, in addition to the regular interactive features -- and the animations are virtually seemless with the game. My wife and I are both sticklers for detail and thus far, we have not been disappointed.
Another nice element to the story is that you can figure most of it out but it still manages to toss out some pleasant and unexpected surprises.
Myst: Revelation is rated "T for Teens" for some slightly edgy psychological moments but the game really isn't violent or gory. That's always a plus for me.
Anyway, that's my two cents on the game...which I haven't finished playing yet.
Best Wishes,
Allen
Friday, October 01, 2004
I don't think I ever mentioned that my wife, Angel, and I are Myst game players. I have to say, I never really got into the original Myst. I made some attempts to play it but Angel played it through to the end. Then we go the Myst Complete Chronicles this summer, although we could only play Exile because our computer uses the Windows 2000 operating system. The Myst and Riven versions on DVD only wanted either Windows 95 or Windows 98. Later, we got a $5 version of Riven in its original CD format and could play that. Then we got intrigued by Uru: Ages Beyond Myst and purchased the Complete Chronicles version of Uru, which includes two bonus packs ("To D'ni" and "The Path of the Shell"). I played that game all the way through and thoroughly enjoyed it. Now, we've just gotten Myst IV: Revelation -- the newest edition of the Myst series.
We like the Myst games for several reasons. First and foremost, they don't require you to shoot people or kill them in other unsavory ways (to which someone in the blogosphere replies "but what else are games for, man??"). Secondly, these games continue to raise the bar on high-quality graphics, animations and music scores in a videogame (there are reasons the Myst games consistently win awards). Third, the Myst games have great stories that create a fascinating, logical continuity between the games. Fourth, the games require great problem-solving skills -- in fact, the "puzzle" aspects of the game will most likely seriously stump and frustrate you at some points...but it's okay, there are plenty of game walkthroughs online. There's no shame in getting some help. Really, it's better than the alternative: banging your head against your monitor (I imagine that could get pretty expensive). Lastly, it really is fun to play these games. Our boys are even into them and, unlike other games, we don't have to worry that the boys are going to imitate fight moves.
I'll play Myst: Revelation for the first time tonight.
Do we have any other Myst players out there? If you do play Myst, which Myst game (Myst, Riven, Exile, Uru) do you like the most? The least? Why do you like or dislike the Myst games? Will you be trying the new Myst: Revelation? Feel free to comment below...
Best Wishes,
Allen
Thursday, September 30, 2004
No commentary from me on it, I'll just let the scriptures speak for themselves.
Best Wishes,
Allen
Psalms 50: 1 - 23 (King James Version)
The mighty God, even the LORD, hath spoken, and called the earth from the rising of the sun unto the going down thereof.
Out of Zion, the perfection of beauty, God hath shined.
Our God shall come, and shall not keep silence: a fire shall devour before him, and it shall be very tempestuous round about him.
He shall call to the heavens from above, and to the earth, that he may judge his people.
Gather my saints together unto me; those that have made a covenant with me by sacrifice.
And the heavens shall declare his righteousness: for God is judge himself. Selah.
Hear, O my people, and I will speak; O Israel, and I will testify against thee: I am God, even thy God.
I will not reprove thee for thy sacrifices or thy burnt offerings, to have been continually before me.
I will take no bullock out of thy house, nor he goats out of thy folds.
For every beast of the forest is mine, and the cattle upon a thousand hills.
I know all the fowls of the mountains: and the wild beasts of the field are mine.
If I were hungry, I would not tell thee: for the world is mine, and the fulness thereof.
Will I eat the flesh of bulls, or drink the blood of goats?
Offer unto God thanksgiving; and pay thy vows unto the most High:
And call upon me in the day of trouble: I will deliver thee, and thou shalt glorify me.
But unto the wicked God saith, What hast thou to do to declare my statutes, or that thou shouldest take my covenant in thy mouth?
Seeing thou hatest instruction, and casteth my words behind thee.
When thou sawest a thief, then thou consentedst with him, and hast been partaker with adulterers.
Thou givest thy mouth to evil, and thy tongue frameth deceit.
Thou sittest and speakest against thy brother; thou slanderest thine own mother's son.
These things hast thou done, and I kept silence; thou thoughtest that I was altogether such an one as thyself: but I will reprove thee, and set them in order before thine eyes.
Now consider this, ye that forget God, lest I tear you in pieces, and there be none to deliver.
Whoso offereth praise glorifieth me: and to him that ordereth his conversation aright will I shew the salvation of God.
Wednesday, September 29, 2004
It is not bragging to say that my non-profit work with ISAA could probably gain me some kind of celebrity status; I've done an incredible amount of media spots on television, radio, newspapers and magazines...and there is no doubt that this work has helped people obtain valuable information to empower themselves and make choices to improve their lives. I'm happy to do this work and I love to help people whenever possible.
Recently, however, I've had to pull back from that work and do some delegating to other ISAA volunteers. The Lord used my minister to help me prioritize my focus...not to stop all my non-profit work but to give some much-deserved extra attention to my wife and kids as well as my day-job. It was just in time, too. The Lord has really blessed me in my communications with my wife and being able to be a more integral part of my sons' lives.
I still coordinate efforts in ISAA and maintain the ISAA website (which is not a daily task). I still read a tremendous amount of e-mail in efforts to keep up-to-date on matters that affect the size acceptance movement. But ultimately, I have to take care of home and family before I can help anyone else. That's biblical and I stand by it. The Lord has really enriched my life, even in a short time, as a result -- and I am very grateful.
Best Wishes,
Allen
Tuesday, September 28, 2004
This morning, my wife was ill (bad allergies), so -- having already taken my boys to school, I realized I would have to rearrange my work schedule to be able to pick them up. You see, my oldest son goes to a charter school with hours of 8 am to 12 pm and my youngest son goes to public school with hours of 7:45 am to 2:45 pm.
I feel blessed to have understanding supervisors...
The upside is, I got to spend more time with my boys and take unnecessary pressure off of my wife while she's under the weather. It's days like this that I feel great about my marriage and parenthood. The Lord helped me to switch gears the moment I realized Angel wasn't feeling well and just do what needed to be done. I'm very grateful to the Lord for that because if He hadn't given me a good understanding of what to do, this could have turned out very differently and been much more stressful.
Anyway, just sharing...
Best Wishes,
Allen
Thursday, September 23, 2004
I've updated some links on IR Haven, mainly to take out newly "broken" links. I also added the "Free Dakota" banner, about an 8-year old boy taken by Child Protective Services in Valparaiso, Indiana because of the boy's weight. ISAA has decided to be supportive of this child and his mother, based upon overwhelming evidence in the mother's favor. Please check it out, you can help reunite a little boy with his wonderful, loving mother. Just click the Free Dakota button below:
In other news, my church is gearing up for a wonderful "Youthfest 2004." This is a program where our church works with other churches to send the positive message of the Gospel of Jesus Christ to today's youth of all nations. First Light will be performing, as well as several other musical groups from our church, in addition to youth-oriented skits, statistics and performances by groups from other churches. The date for Youthfest 2004 is October 23, 2004 in Austin, Texas at the Delco Center. I'll give more details, including times, as I get them.
I want to do more blogging on IR Haven, but I've been wanting to keep everything relevant and not just relay talking points from the news or talk radio or what have you...
Best Wishes,
Allen
Saturday, September 11, 2004
Friday, September 10, 2004
Here's some neato pics that my sons took (with my wife's help, on a couple of them) when my oldest son, Adam, begged and pleaded for a camera (we got a disposable, turned out pretty good, considering the boys are 8 and 5, respectively).
You might say Adam has a different perspective on the world!
Not to be left out of the action, it's "Super Josey" to the rescue!
Bubbles, anyone?
Josey is proud of the Lego spaceship that he built!
This could lead to more "Photo-blogging With Adam & Josey!" Stay tuned...
Best Wishes,
Allen
Tuesday, September 07, 2004
From The New York Times
Cult of Death
By DAVID BROOKS
Published: September 7, 2004
We've been forced to witness the massacre of innocents. In New York, Madrid, Moscow, Tel Aviv, Baghdad and Bali, we have seen thousands of people destroyed while going about the daily activities of life.
We've been forced to endure the massacre of children. Whether it's teenagers outside an Israeli disco or students in Beslan, Russia, we've seen kids singled out as special targets.
We should by now have become used to the death cult that is thriving at the fringes of the Muslim world. This is the cult of people who are proud to declare, "You love life, but we love death." This is the cult that sent waves of defenseless children to be mowed down on the battlefields of the Iran-Iraq war, that trains kindergartners to become bombs, that fetishizes death, that sends people off joyfully to commit mass murder.
This cult attaches itself to a political cause but parasitically strangles it. The death cult has strangled the dream of a Palestinian state. The suicide bombers have not brought peace to Palestine; they've brought reprisals. The car bombers are not pushing the U.S. out of Iraq; they're forcing us to stay longer. The death cult is now strangling the Chechen cause, and will bring not independence but blood.
But that's the idea. Because the death cult is not really about the cause it purports to serve. It's about the sheer pleasure of killing and dying.
It's about massacring people while in a state of spiritual loftiness. It's about experiencing the total freedom of barbarism - freedom even from human nature, which says, Love children, and Love life. It's about the joy of sadism and suicide.
We should be used to this pathological mass movement by now. We should be able to talk about such things. Yet when you look at the Western reaction to the Beslan massacres, you see people quick to divert their attention away from the core horror of this act, as if to say: We don't want to stare into this abyss. We don't want to acknowledge those parts of human nature that were on display in Beslan. Something here, if thought about too deeply, undermines the categories we use to live our lives, undermines our faith in the essential goodness of human beings.
Three years after Sept. 11, too many people have become experts at averting their eyes. If you look at the editorials and public pronouncements made in response to Beslan, you see that they glide over the perpetrators of this act and search for more conventional, more easily comprehensible targets for their rage.
The Boston Globe editorial, which was typical of the American journalistic response, made two quick references to the barbarity of the terrorists, but then quickly veered off with long passages condemning Putin and various Russian policy errors.
The Dutch foreign minister, Bernard Bot, speaking on behalf of the European Union, declared: "All countries in the world need to work together to prevent tragedies like this. But we also would like to know from the Russian authorities how this tragedy could have happened."
It wasn't a tragedy. It was a carefully planned mass murder operation. And it wasn't Russian authorities who stuffed basketball nets with explosives and shot children in the back as they tried to run away.
Whatever horrors the Russians have perpetrated upon the Chechens, whatever their ineptitude in responding to the attack, the essential nature of this act was in the act itself. It was the fact that a team of human beings could go into a school, live with hundreds of children for a few days, look them in the eyes and hear their cries, and then blow them up.
Dissertations will be written about the euphemisms the media used to describe these murderers. They were called "separatists" and "hostage-takers." Three years after Sept. 11, many are still apparently unable to talk about this evil. They still try to rationalize terror. What drives the terrorists to do this? What are they trying to achieve?
They're still victims of the delusion that Paul Berman diagnosed after Sept. 11: "It was the belief that, in the modern world, even the enemies of reason cannot be the enemies of reason. Even the unreasonable must be, in some fashion, reasonable."
This death cult has no reason and is beyond negotiation. This is what makes it so frightening. This is what causes so many to engage in a sort of mental diversion. They don't want to confront this horror. So they rush off in search of more comprehensible things to hate.
Saturday, August 21, 2004
I was visiting an online forum today and I something I read caught my attention, because I wondered if other people felt this way also. The person wrote "The bible is just a book, and God is much more than any book." This troubled me, because while I agree that God is much more than any book, I can't agree that the Bible is just a book.
It is true that Bible's hard (or soft) covers and the paper that makes up the pages are inanimate objects but I believe that the words contained on those pages are the living Word of God. The reason I believe this is because it is still changing lives over 2000 years after it was completed.
Okay, so some of you may be thinking "Wait, Allen, there are other so-called 'holy books' that are still changing lives and guiding people centuries after they were completed. What's the difference between them and the Bible?" And I would have to respond, "That's a good question." Here's my answer, based on my personal experience and the Bible itself...
Hebrews 4:12 (King James Version)
For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any twoedged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.
The Bible is the only "book" that can show a person their life, personally and intimately, as it is and how a person's life could be with Jesus Christ and the Holy Spirit in it. More than that, it can show a person how to live once they accept Jesus into their heart. Only with the Holy Spirit and being truly born again in the spirit can a person have a new life. The Bible is the only book that can show a person how to die to their present, sinful ways and have a clean start with the abilility to resist sin and temptation, through the power and guidance of the Holy Spirit.
Does that make a person perfect? No, but we are to strive for the perfecting of the spirit, with the help of the Lord, towards the ultimate prize and reward (making it to Heaven) for serving Him as He has shown us how to do -- in the Bible.
Hebrews 6: 1 - 20 (King James Version)
1 Therefore leaving the principles of the doctrine of Christ, let us go on unto perfection; not laying again the foundation of repentance from dead works, and of faith toward God,
2 Of the doctrine of baptisms, and of laying on of hands, and of resurrection of the dead, and of eternal judgment.
3 And this will we do, if God permit.
4 For it is impossible for those who were once enlightened, and have tasted of the heavenly gift, and were made partakers of the Holy Ghost,
5 And have tasted the good word of God, and the powers of the world to come,
6 If they shall fall away, to renew them again unto repentance; seeing they crucify to themselves the Son of God afresh, and put him to an open shame.
7 For the earth which drinketh in the rain that cometh oft upon it, and bringeth forth herbs meet for them by whom it is dressed, receiveth blessing from God:
8 But that which beareth thorns and briers is rejected, and is nigh unto cursing; whose end is to be burned.
9 But, beloved, we are persuaded better things of you, and things that accompany salvation, though we thus speak.
10 For God is not unrighteous to forget your work and labour of love, which ye have shewed toward his name, in that ye have ministered to the saints, and do minister.
11 And we desire that every one of you do shew the same diligence to the full assurance of hope unto the end:
12 That ye be not slothful, but followers of them who through faith and patience inherit the promises.
13 For when God made promise to Abraham, because he could swear by no greater, he sware by himself,
14 Saying, Surely blessing I will bless thee, and multiplying I will multiply thee.
15 And so, after he had patiently endured, he obtained the promise.
16 For men verily swear by the greater: and an oath for confirmation is to them an end of all strife.
17 Wherein God, willing more abundantly to shew unto the heirs of promise the immutability of his counsel, confirmed it by an oath:
18 That by two immutable things, in which it was impossible for God to lie, we might have a strong consolation, who have fled for refuge to lay hold upon the hope set before us:
19 Which hope we have as an anchor of the soul, both sure and stedfast, and which entereth into that within the veil;
20 Whither the forerunner is for us entered, even Jesus, made an high priest for ever after the order of Melchisedec.
The Bible is more than just a book. It is the Word of God and it is ALIVE -- its truths the same yesterday, today and forevermore. You have no idea how glad I am about that...
Best Wishes,
Allen
Saturday, July 31, 2004
Friday, July 30, 2004
Weatherpixie appears to no longer exist on the web, so I took that link/graphic off.
I also added some new "IR Blogger" links (thank you, James Landrith, for your comprehensive and exhaustive list of IR links!) that I felt were family-focused and/or interesting. If you know of more IR blogs, please e-mail me!
Lastly, I added a current picture of Rachael Lampa to Tuesday's post, so you could see what she looks like.
More blogging soon!
Best Wishes,
Allen
Tuesday, July 27, 2004
I am saddened yet resolute today. I had been eagerly anticipating the new Rachael Lampa (who is mixed race: Irish and Philippino) Contemporary Christian album "Rachael Lampa," which was released today. I was shocked, however, to hear the first single "When I Fall." In Christian circles, "falling" refers to falling from grace through sinning against the Lord. Many people believe it is possible to willfully sin against God and yet still make it to heaven by just confessing the sin(s) and asking forgiveness.
Rachael Lampa - promotional picture for her 2004 Rachael Lampa album |
Under the Old Testament, this was true because a sin sacrifice could be offered by the High Priest of the Jews for other Jews (because salvation was only granted to the Jews in Old Testament times). But God made a new covenant through His Son, Jesus Christ, in the New Testament and made a way for all who believe on Jesus' name, sacrifice and resurrection from the dead to be saved. With that covenant came a new understanding, which Jesus made clear when He said "Sin no more, lest a worse thing come unto thee." (John 5:14)
Hebrews 10: 26-31 (King James Version)
26 For if we sin wilfully after that we have received the knowledge of the truth, there remaineth no more sacrifice for sins,
27 But a certain fearful looking for of judgment and fiery indignation, which shall devour the adversaries.
28 He that despised Moses' law died without mercy under two or three witnesses:
29 Of how much sorer punishment, suppose ye, shall he be thought worthy, who hath trodden under foot the Son of God, and hath counted the blood of the covenant, wherewith he was sanctified, an unholy thing, and hath done despite unto the Spirit of grace?
30 For we know him that hath said, Vengeance belongeth unto me, I will recompense, saith the Lord. And again, The Lord shall judge his people.
31 It is a fearful thing to fall into the hands of the living God.
I am sad to see Rachael fall and to essentially glory in it by making "When I Fall" the first big single off her album...but I am more resolute than ever to stand for this Holy God that I serve. Am I anything special? Of myself, no, I am not anything. But "I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me." (Phillipians 4:13)
Best Wishes,
Allen
Saturday, July 17, 2004
Thanks! You may help save lives by participating in this effort.
Best Wishes,
Allen
(Loren) Root wishes she could turn back time. "I would've researched. I would've talked to people," she said. "You can find these support groups, you can go on the Internet."
| A Costly Choice: Weight-Loss Surgery Wrecks Woman's Health This is the surgery that medical professionals want to happen more often -- and it's a surgery that is destroying people's lives! If you click on the story link above, this woman, Loren Root, had WLS and is slowly starving to death. There is a fund set up for this poor woman, so please help any way you can. You can also help by clicking HERE and sending a message to the U.S. Secretary of Health and Human Services -- people don't need this surgery, they need to be educated in self-esteem, fitness and healthy food choices. As you can see, WLS is rarely the "quick-fix" it is claimed to be. This woman's case is extreme but not terribly uncommon. It is one of the many side effects that affect more than 40% of WLS patients. Not all deaths are immediate. Please help save lives because OBESITY IS NOT A DISEASE! |
Monday, July 12, 2004
I've been making a few modifications for everyone's convenience. I've replaced the Enetation commenting with Blogger's commenting. Unfortunately, this wiped out the past comments. They're still on enetation.co.uk but it would be frustrating to have two sets of "comments" text on each blog entry. Seeing as how there really hasn't been a whole lot of commenting in the past, I think it's better just to start fresh with the new system.
I've also implemented a blogging hack from blogger.com that allows the archives to be listed in a drop-down menu plus I've deleted the links to Alexa.com and Amazon.com, as they weren't doing anything other than taking up space. Lastly, I added a link to my "Open Letter To The Public" webpage and deleted the counter at the bottom of each page (it wasn't not being very accurate, since I double-check those kinds of things).
If I find any other neat things to add, I'll let you know! If you have any cool suggestions, leave me a comment below.
Best Wishes,
Allen
Saturday, July 10, 2004
In May, I was unemployed, still kind of sick and struggling to find relevant ways to spend my time while my wife worked and my kids were at school. Now, I've been blessed with a great job (that grants overtime -- woohoo!), my volunteer work running ISAA (International Size Acceptance Association) is booming and bustling (check out our Yahoo activism -- plus I'm writing an ISAA-related book.
I may be ridiculously busy but I'm hardly complaining! It's good to have purpose and feel needed.
I won't bore you with the daily ISAA routines. Let's just say that I do a lot of communicating and coordinating, often with ISAA branch leaders in different cities (and usually different continents). I'm grateful for e-mail and instant messaging or I wouldn't be able to do all this!
Why am I writing a book? Two reasons.
One: I believe that ISAA has had a fascinating history over the last seven years. In fact, I believe ISAA's history will be one that people will enjoy and be surprised at.
Two: This is an opportunity to sum up ISAA's philosophies and recommendations to the public which I truly believe represent a realistic, healthy way to deal with the "obesity epidemic." It is my hope that this information will help improve health and save lives.
This is some of what's been going on with me lately.
I'll keep you updated as things progress.
Best Wishes,
Allen
Wednesday, July 07, 2004
This is a copy of one of my Xanga blog entries but I thought you might find it interesting...
I'd been holding back for years, mainly because of the expense but I finally needed one. I needed one to help organize my contacts and appointments when I am away from computers. So I did what every value-minded individual does to get the highest quality product for the lowest price: I went to eBay.
I bought a Handspring Visor Deluxe for $40.00 and a USB sync cradle for $5.00. I received the Visor (which included a detachable, solid plastic screen cover *and* a leather case) within two days (I was impressed) and the cradle within a week. Both looked new and nice and both work well. (I only had to add 2 new AA batteries to the Visor).
A couple of weeks ago, I downloaded the King James Version of the Bible for Palm OS (for free) along with a free Bible reader program. I also subscribed to Avant Go and can now download headlines and stories from BBC News, USA Today, The Wall Street Journal and PCWorld.com. No, I'm not a former journalist...
Now, I do not let this new "toy" take up every waking minute, but it nice to have the option of Bible study or news reading a couple of times a day.
I also have inputed around 70 addresses, so I'm happy.
I do warn about eBay, though -- I can see how it could be habit-forming. Must...use...sparingly...
Best Wishes,
Allen
Several months ago, I started a new blog on Xanga because I wanted to try to separate my "spiritual" commentary from my IR commentary -- and you know what, since then, I've been much less motivated to blog at either.
I think that defeats the purpose, don't you?
So I'm going to put the Xanga blog on permanent hiatus and just focus on IR Haven. I started out with IR Haven, the website, and I'm really not ready to let it go. It means too much to me.
I do wonder whether or not I want to keep the "Love Sees No Color Ring" going, though. It started out as the second pre-Webring Rings on the Net but now I find all kinds of sites applying for it.
The idea behind LSNC was a good one and at one time, it had nearly 100 sites participating. It's down to something like 36 and I really cringe at some of the sites applying these days...I dunno.
What do you think? Leave me a comment. Do you think LSNC should continue or has its time passed?
Best Wishes,
Allen
Wednesday, April 07, 2004
This morning, I was listening to talk radio, as I often do on my morning commute while taking my youngest son to school. A conservative talk show host (not Rush) was confused and beside himself about why President Bush and now his brother, Governor Jeb Bush, do not take hard stances against the issue of illegal immigration. In fact, both President Bush and his brother tend to lean towards policies that seem to "reward" coming to the U.S. illegally while citing compassion as the reason.
I think I do understand why they differ from party-line on this issue, and if my hunch is correct, it has nothing to do with politics. President and Gov. Bush have immediate family members who are interracially married into the Hispanic nation and those family members have biracial children. It would not be unreasonable to think that their opinions and feelings about those family members might spill over into their politics.
Is that right? Is that conservative? Is that good decision-making? Probably not, but it is very human. And in regard to interracial issues, it's a bold stance to take which I can respect (if that is the reason)...even if I don't agree with it, politically.
That's just my thoughts on the issue, from an IR perspective. What do you think? Feel free to comment below.
Best Wishes,
Allen
Monday, March 08, 2004
8:15 p.m. Sunday 3/7/2004 - This should be an interesting set of blog entries. "Set," you say? "What do you mean by 'set?'" At this moment, I am sitting on the floor of a Cinemark Theater in Pflugerville, Texas, several miles from where I live in North Austin, waiting 90 minutes to see a 9:40 p.m. showing of Mel Gibson's "The Passion of the Christ." I had come at 6:30 p.m. to see the 7:00 p.m. showing, but both the 6:30 and 7:00 showings had already SOLD OUT. I drove to another relatively nearby movie theater to see it there instead but it was not even showing there...so I drove back to the Cinemark and bought my ticket 2.5 hours in advance. I'd heard the ticket counter person tell someone else to arrive an hour to an
hour and half early because there's always a big line to get in. So, I went home to tell my wife, Angel, so she wouldn't be shocked that I'd be gone so late.
I have never seen a movie sell out tickets for multiple showings on multiple screens nearly two weeks after it's debut! And these are not churches buying up whole blocks of seats for their memberships -- these were all just curious everyday people like me...
I suppose Mel Gibson should thank the media for all the buzz they created with their unabashed intolerance of this subject matter: the very real arrest, trial, torture and crucifixion of Jesus Christ -- but that should not overshadow His very real resurrection from the dead and victory for those who believe in the saving power of His Name. Now, in all fairness, I have not seen the movie yet. I just got back from the concession stand where a small drink and a small package of Sweet Tarts cost me $5.00 (why am I not surprised?).
I'm the fourth person in line, though; I wanted to get a good seat. Angel suggested I bring a book or something to read. When I told her I didn't really have any books I wanted to read, she suggested I write a personal log entry. I thought that was an intriguing idea -- and then I realized as I pulled into the theater parking lot that I could blog about my first impressions of the movie after seeing it, thus making this a multi-part blog entry.
That's cool. I'm hoping this will make for more interesting reading.
8:47 p.m. - This is incredible. I'm watching the group of people who just got out of an earlier showing of "The Passion." Almost all of the women are crying or teary-eyed (some men, too) and EVERYONE is somber. Incredible!
About 8:55 p.m. - This showing I'm about to see is obviously about to sell out, too. Two rows out of three are filled with people waiting to see this film. I have seen people of all ages and all nations, some interracial couples and multiracial individuals (including children). I've heard at least three languages being spoken (English, Spanish and either Chinese or Vietnamese) while people are passing the time. I understand why people might bring their newborns (although I don't think that's any better than bringing any child under 12) but there are several young children here and I feel sorry for those children; they should not be subjected to the kind of violence they will see in this movie.
About 9:00 p.m. - There are now three rows of people in line for the movie.
About 9:05 p.m. - I now have a choice seat in the middle of the theater. Here's hoping my pen lasts...
9:40 p.m. - The theater is almost packed and still filling up. Cell phones are everywhere. The movie is about to start.
11:59 p.m. - I'm in my van, the movie is over. This is a good movie, a powerful movie but it does have some flaws. It's cinematography is wonderful, it's a beautifully filmed movie and well-directed by Gibson. I even appreciated the way its flashbacks were handled, they were tasteful and well-timed. I think the multiple languages with English subtitles was a stroke of pure genius, it works well in underscoring the differences in the cultures in Israel at the time. The acting was appropriate and skillful. As a whole, it does well in bringing the scriptures to the audience and making the audience see and feel their meaning.
Unfortunately, there are many "embellishments" to the scriptures that stray from the original scriptures as well as some distinctly Catholic symbolism. For example, while I loved when Jesus was onscreen, by 3/4 of the way into the movie, I was tired of seeing Mary, mother of Jesus. I did not think Jesus should share screen time with His mother; the movie was about Him and His passion (suffering). There were parts where Mary was very appropriately used, such as when Christ addressed her as "Mother, behold your son" and looked to one of His disciples and said "Behold your mother." Again, when the movie portrayed the scriptures, it excelled masterfully. Gibson succeeds in making us feel Christ's sufferings -- until Gibson abandons scripture to create new torments for Jesus. This and the overt Catholic symbolism distracted from an otherwise incredible movie.
Don't get me wrong. I understand that Mel Gibson is devoutly Catholic. I am not anti-Catholic, just as this movie is not anti-semetic. I am simply pointing out that Gibson's symbolic embellishments do not add to the movie, they work against its very premise and disrupt the flow.
Now there were embellishments that added to the movie. Gibson's use of Satan was, for the most part, quite intriguing throughout the film, as was his use of the supporting cast of Jesus' disciples and those whose lives Jesus influenced.
Again, when the movie did portray the scriptures, it excelled masterfully. To his credit, Gibson even used the scriptures which answer the question "Who killed Jesus?" This was in two parts. First, when Pontius Pilate is questioning Jesus...
John 18: 10 - 11 KJV (King James Version -- I don't know which translation of the Bible the movie used)
Then saith Pilate unto him, Speakest thou not unto me? knowest thou not that I have power to crucify thee, and have power to release thee?
Jesus answered, Thou couldest have no power at all against me, except it were given thee from above...
and in a flashback to the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus says
St. John 10: 11 KJV
11 I am the good shepherd: the good shepherd giveth his life for the sheep.
St. John 10: 18 KJV
18 No man taketh it from me, but I lay it down of myself. I have power to lay it down, and I have power to take it again. This commandment have I received of my Father.
Overall "grade" for the movie? I'll give it an "A" for effort. Would I endorse this movie? Yes, I would but with 2 cautions:
1. Do not, under ANY circumstances, take children under age 12.
2. As my wife recommended to me, be prayerful before you see this movie and read the scriptures for yourself.
They can be found in:
St. Matthew 26: 18 - 75
St. Matthew 27
St. Matthew 28
as well as
St. John 18 and
St. John 19
Thanks for reading this! Please feel free to leave your comments.
Best Wishes,
Allen
Monday, March 01, 2004
I apologize that I haven't blogged in a couple of weeks. I've been pretty ill off and on since Thanksgiving 2003. I only found out last week that my immediate family has a history of lactose intolerance (being unable to digest milk and dairy products).
If you want to learn about lactose intolerance, the National Institutes of Health has a great webpage on it at http://digestive.niddk.nih.gov/ddiseases/pubs/lactoseintolerance/
It's taken a lot of prayer and faith to constantly lean on the Lord when I've felt my worst (and just when I've felt pretty bad). I mean, it's not like I've just had a little bit of an upset stomach or some unpleasant gas as a result of dairy products. It's been an everyday struggle to keep weight on! I've lost about 20 pounds (that I had no desire to lose) since last November.
Some friends of mine from church were kind enough to do some research on my symptoms and suggested some changes in the foods I'm eating. I've already had to make changes in what I eat in order to avoid dairy products, so I'm going to make these changes at the same time.
According to my friends, this will be a "semi-vegetarian" approach: some meats like chicken or pork (and to drain the fats off of those) but no red meats, more vegetables and, like I said, no dairy products. I already have been using wheat bread for over 20 years, so no switch there. I'll also have to cut out carbonated drinks (such as sodas) and (Agh!) caffeine. The aim is to help me keep weight on and improve my overall health.
I want to make sure to add that my wife has been wonderfully supportive of me throughout this whole ordeal.
I'll keep you updated.
Best Wishes,
Allen
Saturday, February 14, 2004

This is Mangia Pizza's heart-shaped pizza, specially made just for Valentine's Day. It's a Chicago-style pizza pie. I ordered ours with pepperoni, tomatoes, extra cheese and mushrooms and believe me, it was a hit with my wife (little did I know that she had gotten the kids their own Gatti's cheese pizza -- seen on Josey's plate at top of picture -- so this one was OURS!) -- and delicious! I managed to go out and get it before the weather deteriorated and do not regret it for a minute. If you're in Austin, Texas, give them a call this weekend and order one, they're GREAT!!!
Best Wishes,
Allen